You do their performance evaluations. Their survival in the company depends on your decision and your criteria. So when you say “I get along fine with the people who report to me because I always get good evaluations from them,” do you really think that’s evidence?
This doesn’t mean they lack courage or are being strategic. They might be entirely sincere. The asymmetry simply means you cannot know. When you hold power over someone’s professional life, that structural inequality is present in every interaction whether anyone responds to it or not. Their positive evaluation might reflect their genuine experience of working with you. Or it might not. The asymmetry makes the meaning of their feedback fundamentally indeterminate.
And while the surveys are anonymous, there are just too many managers who’ve told me they can recognize who wrote the comments by the way it was written and the words they used. So even the structural protection of anonymity often dissolves in practice. And if comments are too risky and you take them off, then you’re left with numbers. And as Disraeli said, there are lies, damned lies, and statistics.
You might deserve the praise. But their positive evaluation, given the context, cannot tell you whether you do.
The same dynamic appears when executives cite employee engagement surveys as proof their culture is healthy. The survey measures what employees are willing to say about a culture that determines whether they remain employed. What you’re measuring isn’t engagement. It’s what people are willing to have measured.
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